Psychology
HABITS OF LIVING TOGETHER
The modern society coexists inside a frame of annihilating competitiveness. With mottoes as: “It is necessary to fight for the life” , “It is necessary to make a living with the perspiration of our fronts” , we confirm deeply rooted concepts that orientate our conducts and do that our habits, seemingly noble and optimists, lead us inevitably to a pathological state.
We have in consequence a world lived by persons in permanent state of alert. We have lost in the time the habits of acceptance of our own being and in consequence the acceptance of our similar ones Both attitudes have to see with the autoesteem, since autoesteem is the acceptance of our own worth, it is the aptitude to love ourselves as starting point to be able to love our neighbor. “It is not possible to give what is not had”.
Ziolandina has proven methods acceptable for the science, in order to develop the capacity of the human being to love himself and be able to love.
The starting point is a correct level of autoesteem, which allows us to exercise with naturalness our innate capacity of meddling on 100 % of everything related to our destination and which on the base of this feeling we are capable of exercising our aptitude to love. Understanding that loving is to recognize in the dear being, the same capacity that we see in us and to offer to him our franc feeling of recognition, without asking to wait for nothing in return.
The habits that we accept moving away from this scheme, are the cause of a defective relation with ourselves and with our environment and they develop into an emotional imbalance, which in some moment, will demonstrate in a clinical state that can be a gastritis, hypertension or a cancer.
SOME SCOPES OF INVESTIGATIONS RELATED TO THE CUSTOMS OF BEHAVIOR
1. The negative feelings create psychological injuries that then demonstrate in a physical complaint.
It is a seemingly unjust situation; but this is a law that governs the life of the human being. The relation of living together with our similar ones must always be the same: a feeling of recognition in other persons the innate aptitude that it has to raise his spirit, independently of his behavior in relation to us. Even in case that could have caused us some damage.
This concept illustrates , the history published by Louise Hay in one of his interesting books that we recommend to read. Louise had an obviously well-taken feeling of rejection and hate towards his stepfather who had done her object of sexual abuse, ignoring his girl's condition under his occasional tutelage. With traversing the years this feeling of negative relation, it produced in Louise the appearance of a malignant tumor in the womb. The cause of this cancer, it was the feeling that though justified, it could not already change the pernicious and disgusting act that happened in the past; but if it was contaminating constantly the successful present days of this valuable woman. In spite of his great aptitude to help his patients with psychological problems, Louise Hay had to appeal, she herself, to the help specialized to be able return this negative feeling, to accept the fact as an event of the past and to recognize in that man, even after being the author of such a felony, his aptitude to mend his errors and to achieve the exercise of the kindness. The correct relation with our similar ones is the recognition of his right of the redemption and of the elevation of his spirit. When Louise Hay manages to eliminate this feeling of his present life, it got away itself forever from all his harmful effect, including the cancer that they diagnosed. It managed to cure his spirit and with it I treat his body.
Let's update so the Tibetan expression “Tashi daley” (I honor the nobility of spirit that exists inside you) as the best form of greeting, chord to our convictions of living together, already practiced in the Tibet and forgotten in traversing the centuries and in the noise of “the struggle for the life or for the justice“, trying to annihilate to whom they prove to be different to us, doing enemies of our brothers.
2. The auto esteem, as a way of achieving a happy world.-
A correct level of auto esteem, fundamentally demonstrates with the aptitude to be accepted that as one is with shortcomings and virtues, in other words the auto esteem is in itself the auto approval. Having a suitable level of approval like to be a human being we will be able to realize and to reach personal goals. In this field each one is the sovereign absolute one. Regrettably the majority of the persons does not exercise this right and on the contrary they resign him under diverse forms and with motivations from the most puerile up to the most elaborated. The result is a society with fall of auto esteem, with persons who are considered to be poor by definition and consequently they change his right to the management of his destination for an attitude of hope and up to faith in “someone”, who could relieve his difficulties.
The true thing is that, every day we see examples of people that achieve his targets, they reach his goals with the simple exercise of his will and with naturalness and after the day they can give his testimony that "every person is the maker of his own destination" and this is the law that governs our lives, if we believe in our possibilities, if we are in love, we can have the house that we wish, know the partner that we dream, have the work that more gives us satisfaction of realizing, etc. And what is equally important: we will be able, openly, to recognize sincerely the same capacity in all similar ours, that is to say, the possibility of beginning a correct relation with all of them.
The beginning of life and living together on the base of a correct level of auto esteem manages to be defined hereby as a way of reaching the personal health and that of our societies in his set. Societies solidly constituted by happy men joined by balanced feelings of love and acceptance. It is not necessary to fight for anything, only it is necessary to stretch the kind hand of our pacific and affectionate will to take with restraint what corresponds to us, as the ancient man already practised it in other latitudes.
3. We are essentially spiritual beings.
To understand the nature of our being is a fundamental requisite to be able to take to the practice the rules of living together based on the love and to do of them the base of our behavior in relation with us themselves and with our environment. All the big civilizations that have populated the ground in different epochs have left unequivocal testimony, of his convictions gravitantes on the spiritual nature of the man. The death only concerns the body, the spirit prevails beyond the term of our earthly life. Under this optics, it is simpler to practise the concepts of love as the only tie of union between the human beings, because it is something that develops and fits in natural form in this frame. If we are spiritual, the accumulation of material wealth stops having sense and it is not necessary that one agrees to have any scarcity of anything that we need because everything is attainable for a spiritual balanced being that exercises his right to be happy in his earthly life already everything it him is attainable.
The truth in a scientist way demonstrable is that our nature humanizes, it determines that each and every of us we have the same aptitude to work our own history. Only we have to understand that it does today, in order that the tomorrow is a continuation of a solid and happy today, have to understand that the facts spent we can already modify them and therefore they must remain in the place that corresponds to him and not project his shade in our today, unless it is a positive shade and of love.